Monday 21 January 2013

Turning 30

Recently I turned the big three O, this prompted me to reflect on my life and where I am at right now. For the first birthday that I can remember, I felt content and at peace. Turning 30 was fabulous.

I didn't feel this way due to running around achieving a whole lot over the last year, in fact in the months leading up to my birthday I hadn't done a whole lot of achieving in general due to a whole lot of movement and many challenges faced. I felt this way because I have taught myself that where we are at right now is perfect. In our world we spend a large part of our lives striving and achieving and fighting. We are told that to sit still means death, to stop 'doing' signifies that our lives are meaningless. We are told that if we don't reach certain goals by certain times in our lives than there is something wrong.  I challenge this line of thinking because I think there is a time and place to just be. In fact I not only think there is a time and a place for being still I believe it is a necessity.

I'm not saying sit around all day doing nothing but I do believe we are desperately in need of a shift in consciousness. I see so many people who are burnt out, people who are beating themselves up because they haven't done enough with their lives. People who are constantly running on adrenaline and not taking the time to actually just be in the moment. The moment is all we have and if we aren't paying attention to it then we are living our lives in a place that doesn't exist. Just think about it for a second the past and the future aren't actually a real thing, they are given power by our minds. We think and obsess about where we want to be or where we have been but there is not such thing. Again I'm not saying don't make any plans at all, go ahead make plans, dream dreams but don't become so attached to these plans that you forget about where you are now, that you forget that you are a unique expression of perfect humaness that cannot be replicated. That you don't actually need to do anything at all, as you are exactly where you need to be right now.

The funny thing is I am guilty of all the things I have mentioned above. I used to be so future obsessed that I would become anxious when things weren't happening straight away, exactly how I wanted them to be. I had to painstakingly retrain myself to let go of this train of thought. I had to teach myself slowly to let go and let god so to speak. I have trained myself to always come back to the thought that everything happens for a reason and there is a plan already laid out for me I just need to trust. This has been immensely helpful and has gotten me to a much happier place. It is of course an ongoing lesson and something I need to remind myself of all the time.

The first restorative yoga class I ever went to changed my world. All of a sudden I was doing a class where we actually didn't really 'do' anything. All of the poses were designed to get you into a place of deep relaxation and allow you to let go. It wasn't a work out, I didn't have to strive or achieve or do things to shape my body differently. I didn't even have to try to do anything I just had to be, be in my body, be one with my breath and be in a profound place of stillness. I finally found a physical expression of just being. So this is my mission now, to teach others that they don't have to constantly be fighting and driving towards success. That along their path they can just sit still for a while and listen to who they are inside and marvel at the beauty of it all. That is what I want for all humankind and what I will always strive towards.

Yours in stillness
Namaste
L xox